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The scene: Dinner at his mom’s house. His cousins are in town. His mom changes the conversation to ‘What to do with my remains after I die.’
My guy: Well, I’ve got Dad’s ashes in my kitchen.
Me: Where in your kitchen?
My guy: In one of the kitchen cabinets.
Me: No. Not really, right?
My guy: Yeah, the kitchen cabinet.
Me: I cleaned out your kitchen cabinets.
My guy:….Did you throw away my dad? That’s a deal-breaker if you threw away my dad.